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John James, founder of The Grief Recovery Institute

John W. James

Founder of The Grief Recovery Institute®
Co-Author of The Grief Recovery
Handbook & When Children Grieve


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We sometimes think the harsh words we said in an argument caused someone to die. It's not true. (Published 7/7/2015)

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Will I ever stop blaming myself? My mother died last year when I was almost 15 years old. She had left my father and I when I was a baby, but we had maintained contact. A month prior to her death, she called, we fought, and I said some awful things to her, things that I didn't mean. My father told me she’d died two days after her death. She was only 33. I never got to go to her funeral because it was far away. Because of that fight we had shortly before she died, I still blame myself for her death. I don't know what I can do at this point. I've seen 2 therapists and I’ve really tried to get help. And even though I have a family that supports me, it seems like after everything is said and done, I'm still sitting alone thinking the same thing: "It was my fault!”


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